Posts by troubled mind

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Im disfellowshipped

by newcomer1982 in

think it was announced yesterday that im disfellowshipped.

will these feelings of guilt and panic ever go away?

my head is so messed up.

troubled mind

So to save his position in the Kingdom Hall your Father is willing to kick you ,and his grandchild out of a house he has formerly allowed you to live in ????

Does that sound like 'true Christian love' or even 'natural affection' ?

To me it sounds like manipulation ,and spiritual blackmail ... Because they know you will be faced with increased hardship without their assisstance ,and this will make you easier to control when you feel you have no other choice than to follow 'the rules' of the organization .

Now is the time for you to decide ,are you going to stand on your own two feet ? Do you want your own child to grow up in a religion that coerces parents to behave this way ?

Do not fall into the trap of guilt being laid at your feet . It is a tool used to control you . You are an adult I assume . You have the right to make your own choices now .

Find sources to help you in your area for single Mothers . Local Churches can be a big help ! Many have programs willing to help a person such as yourself ,especially in a small town .(I live in one myself ,and was amazed after leaving the Witnesses ,how very helpful and truly organized local Churches were in helping those in need .)

Chin -up girl you can do this . Much encouragement and good advice can be found on this site . Courage to you !

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As A JW Were You Generally Feeling Guilty Over One Thing Or Another?

by minimus in

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i believe the witnesses keep people in the cult by means of using guilt as a tool.

it seems people who leave the religion tend to stop using meds and anti-depressants.

exjws seem more content and less filled with worry and guilt.. what do you think?.

troubled mind

I was just thinking about this today . One of the main reasons I faded away from the meetings was not so much because I didn't believe they had the truth I just couldn't stand being so unhappy . I was so sad because i always felt guilty ,even when I had not done anything wrong . Whenever I was part of a group either at work ,or at the KH ,and the Elders gave a reprimanding talk or my boss came down on the sales staff for weak performance ....I always felt it was my fault ....how crazy is that ??? I now know ,after being out for 6 yrs that it WAS the Watchtower influence that caused these feelings .

I no longer have those guilt feelings and I no longer suffer from episodes of depression like I did then . I feel happy now ,genuine,normal ...

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My Father passed away during the night

by jwfacts in

dad was a great man, great, despite the religion.

he was powerful, tall and intelligent, yet humble and kind.

he was an introvert, and a circuit overseer.

troubled mind

I truly am sorry for your loss . He was so young ...so glad the two of you were able to speak with each other these past few months . He sounded like a wonderful man ,and no doubt a role model for you .

I hope your Mother will moderate her JW views in order to maintain a better relationship with you and your family . I wish you much strength in facing those at the KH for the up coming funeral . Hold your head high as the proud son you most certainly are ,the love and respect for your parents will shine through . May the unlookers realize love of family is not a switch to be turned off and on .

May you have peace .

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Reaching a Significant Milestone

by Quendi in

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hello friends,.

sunday, 4 september 2011 will go down as an important day in my spiritual journey.

i had an extraordinary experience today that i feel compelled to share with all of you.

troubled mind

I am so happy for you . It is wonderful when we discover how beautiful worship can be compared to what we were use to in the KH . I too wish you much happiness in your continued journey .

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Have you ever taught worldly people all about JW while you are ex JW?

by Iamallcool in

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troubled mind

Yes I have several times . It just keeps coming up Many of my new friends have at least one distant relative that is a witness .

Last week I was in a discussion about dating with some women friends . I explained what is was like in JW culture to date . One of the women asked if Witnesses were those 'bun heads that wore dresses all the time " I explained those were more likely Pentecostal (sp?)....it was funny though .

In all my discussions it amazes me how very little most people really know about JW's . With this local area being mostly small rural towns that gets covered in field service every six months you would think the 'preaching work ' would have made some progress in teaching Kingdom Truths the past 100 yrs ... So much for the JW's being 'actors on the stage of the world ' being closely observed by those around them At least that is what we were always told ....as if the whole community gave a flying flip what we believed .

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I am out (finally) - done with the Witnesses

by Anony Mous in

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hi, long time no see.

i am finally out of the borg.

had a talk with an elder-friend-family member today who said i should just do it if that's what i want to do, and my wife says if that's what i want to do that she's fine with it.

troubled mind

Good job Anoy Mous ! Wonderful talk . I am happy you now feel free . Be prepared though for some emotional ups and downs , it takes time to re-adjust .

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Did you say nothin' when you should've asked why?

by THE GLADIATOR in

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i laid low when i could've stood high.. i said nothin' when i should've asked why.. i saw somethin' that i might've done and i didn't, .

a chance to speak my truth and i hid it.. .

im a bit of a jeff bridges fan.

troubled mind

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short experience about my uber JW family and neighborhood block party

by cult classic in

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she has been out in field service with her family and goes on to tell me of all the spiritual activities they have planned for the fall.

all of her children are homeschooled and pioneering.

she actually said, "well maybe i will send them over, but they have rehearsal for the special assembly day program.

troubled mind

That is wonderful CC ! I wish my relatives could act a bit more normal .

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When Easter Eggs Hatch. . .

by leavingwt in

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i enjoyed this video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qscrxorkqrc.

troubled mind

peeps

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"Never Watch the Television"

by palmtree67 in

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this is going around dubbie-land right now.. i find it extremely ironic that the jw's are passing around this video as proof that the society is right to warn them about restricting tv watching.. notice, the guy says "if you watch a movie, you should do so critically", among other gems that the jw's will not apply to themselves.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmbymkxgrv4.

troubled mind

Alan Watts died in 1973 . His radio talks are being heard a new on the internet . Look him up on wikipedia ,interesting fellow .

I remember a big swing in the late seventies early eighties for JW's to put the TV away or completely get rid of it . Conventions would have skits where the husband and wife decided to quit watching TV ,and miraculously their homelife improved leaps and bounds . One I recall ,they kept a small TV ,but kept it in the closet so it was an effort to take it out and set it up .This way it was out of sight out of mind and easier to do with out . After that convention many in our hall proudly announced how they too would follow the advice to rid their homes of this 'worldly ' influence . For a while it was a spiritual badge of honor to do w/o TV .

Who knows someone back then on the GB may have listened to Alan Watts broadcasts , and thought it was a sensible arguement . I mean we all realize these guys get their opinions from other men and just label it as their own "new light " to be passed on as inspired .